Reflections on Fathers
Father’s Day may mean a family celebration where one’s father is honored for his love and concern for his children. In Texas, it frequently means a barbeque or picnic in the park. For many, it may also be a remembrance of a father who lived his life well.
For Y Collaborative, it is also a time to reflect not on the things father does for his young children, but for his family as life progresses. Specifically, we think about the peace of mind father provides when he relieves stress and anxiety by attending to the matters regarding his health and well-being, along with his willingness to face and answer end-of-life questions.
Many fathers, approximately 80%, die without a will. Countless others don’t have a living will or advanced healthcare directive so their spouse and children are left to face difficult decisions regarding husband or father’s care when he is unable to do so.
All of this could be avoided by putting into place thoughtful, but simple instruments that let others know how you want to be treated if you become incapacitated (AHD or living will) and by having a simple will so that decisions regarding your assets aren’t left to bewildered family members or the state.
Interestingly, you don’t have to spend much time to develop a living will or advanced healthcare directive and you don’t have pots of money to need a will. What you do need is the willingness to have a conversation with yourself about what you want to happen if you somehow are unable to speak for yourself and about what you want to happen when you die.
Rarely do people want to think about incapacitation or death, but both are real possibilities. Death is inevitable – even if we don’t choose to think so.
One of the most priceless gifts a father can give to his children and his spouse is to remove the burden of decision-making from them. A living will and a simple will accomplish much of this. So we encourage you to take one more step in fatherhood and assist your family to help you see that your wishes are achieved.
We have links to the tools and resources you need. Please use them and put worry away and enjoy peace of mind. Above all, enjoy the accolades that come your way this father’s day for a commitment well served and a life well lived.